335: Special Needs Kids and How Oils Can Help w/ Jennifer Lansink
Today's guest Jen Lansink's life took a 180-degree turn when her daughter Teal was diagnosed with special needs. At the time Jen was running a multi-million dollar company and traveling around the world, but with just a few words from a neurologist, her whole world changed.
Jen is an active essential oil junky, a crystal lover, psychic medium, international inspirator, and host of a new podcast called “For Our Special Kids” where she openly and honestly talks about the magic and the mess of raising a child with special needs. Tune in to learn how Jen incorporates essential oils into her parenting journey and insightful wisdom into the world of special needs children.
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0 (40s): Welcome to the essential oil revolution. I'm your host, Samantha Lee Wright today on our show, we're covering a very special topic and that is our special needs kids. We'll dive in with our guests, Jen Lanza. Who's a mom of a special needs kid. Who's incorporated essential oil throughout her journey to help with all sorts of situations. You'll hear some practical advice, some insightful wisdom and some wonderful stories from Jen. But before we get to today's interview, allow me to pull a recipe out of our DIY dugout. This is the segment of our show, where we pull a recipe out of our DIY dugout, a collection of recipes that have been submitted by you. 0
(1m 21s): Our amazing listeners and today's recipe comes from Joyce, Kansas with her recipe called golden milk latte. I've been obsessed with this lately. You guys to make the golden milk latte you'll need tumeric powder, ginger essential oil and cinnamon vitality, essential oil heat up any milk of your choice. Add in a teaspoon of the tumeric, then a pinch of ginger and a drop of cinnamon vitality for a warming drink. She likes to add a bit of honey as well. Thank you for your recipe, Joyce. We appreciate you.
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0 (5m 39s): I'm here with Jennifer Lansing, whose life took a 180 degree turn. When her daughter teal was diagnosed with special needs. At the time, Jen was running a multi-million dollar training and communications company within the biotech and pharmaceutical industries, traveling around the world, facilitating interactive events and working too many hours. But with just a few words from a neurologist, her whole world changed priorities changed her focus changed now almost three years later, Jen is an active, essential oil junkie, a crystal lover, international inspirator and host of a new podcast called for our special kids where she openly and honestly talks about the magic and the mess of raising a child with special needs.
0 (6m 23s): Jennifer, welcome to the show. How are you?
4 (6m 26s): I am doing great. Thank you. Honored to be here actually.
0 (6m 30s): Well, it's an honor to have you here and thank you for sharing your story just in advance because wow. I mean, just from your bio, what a story? My goodness. What was that? What was that transition like? I mean, going from this super, I don't know what the best word is driven and capitalists come in.
4 (6m 48s): Yes.
0 (6m 49s): To a, to hear, you know, what was that journey like?
4 (6m 52s): Yeah. As you were reading the bio, my heart just starts going. Cause I remember that moment. So I get emotional so clearly and I had no idea Samantha, how much my life would change. And when I look back on, I don't like to use the word crazy, but I had a pretty crazy life. I mean, I was traveling all over the world and, and telling doctors, you know, kind of what to do, bossing people around it. You know, it was just this very corporate world. I did it all in a nice way. I say bossing people around. I'm like, oh God, that sounds horrid. But you know what I mean about just, I was in charge of a lot and there was a lot on my plate. And you know, when you have a child, you have to, everything changes anyway, right?
4 (7m 39s): I mean, you have a child and your whole world changes. You think you had it all figured out and you don't. And then you get a neurologist that says, Hey, your child has special needs. And the world that you thought you were going to raise your child in is a thousand times different and everything looks different. And
0 (7m 59s): How old was teal when that diagnosis came
4 (8m 2s): In? 16 months.
0 (8m 4s): Okay. Yeah. It's interesting. When you say like the world, you think you're going to raise your child. And because I think we all do that as parents, before we have children, we pick kind of paint this picture of like how we're going to raise our children, what kind of world it's going to be like and all the things you're going to do and all the things you're not going to do. Right? Like I'll never let my kid watch TV. You know, we all, we all do that. And, and then yeah, to have that picture just completely sort of taken away or maybe not completely, you know, but just very much turned upside down. I'm sure. Yeah.
4 (8m 36s): So it's just a new reality that you have to, it's a new lens, right? You just have to look differently. And you know, teal was two pounds when she was born. So she was really little, it was emergency C-section and so, right then things changed. But developmentally we knew she would be behind just because you start at two pounds and I mean, it takes you forever to get to just a typical baby weight. Right. And so that was already different. But then when, when you start seeing some pretty significant developmental delays, that's when you know the red flags start going and you get anxious. But yeah, it's a total, it's a new way of looking at the world and I wouldn't change it for anything.
4 (9m 20s): I wouldn't change it for anything because I am a completely different person. I she's magic. I mean, all of these children with special needs are magic. They just have so much to offer the world. And that's one of my goals now is to help the world, see these beautiful shining lights that are here and we have to look differently at them because truthfully teal is so much more evolved than I am. She doesn't care about her body. She's not here to walk and talk and do those things. She's here to be the light of the world. And that's what these children are doing.
0 (10m 1s): I love that. This reminds me so much of a story that I used to read out loud when I taught childbirth classes. Because you know, when you're teaching a childbirth class, you don't have that much time with parents and you really, you can't cover it all. And, but I, you know, that there's, that I feel like it's very important for parents to be, to really understand and sometimes change that perspective of what it might be like to raise a child with special needs, because you never know what's going to happen. Right. And, and there's a story, I'm sorry. I can't remember who wrote it, but it's this short kind of not poem, but little story about when, you know, when you're pregnant and or when you're around other parents and it's, it's when you're raising a child with special needs, it's almost like you're in a world where everyone else is talking about taking a vacation to Italy.
0 (10m 54s): Like, oh, we're going to Italy and we're going to eat this great food. And we're going to go to the art museums and we're going to do this and that. And, and all the iconic Italy moments. And then when you have a child with special needs, it's, it's like, you're taking a trip to Belgium instead. And yeah, people are like, why, why would you want to go there? And I was like, well, you know, Belgium has tulips and when meals and flower, you know, and all these things, and I'm not doing the best job of summarizing the story of
4 (11m 22s): It's called Amsterdam, actually I it's the Amsterdam. Right. It's, it's being stuck in Amsterdam when you thought you're going to Italy. Exactly.
0 (11m 30s): Yes, exactly. You know, it, you know it, but it's, it's just a great way to sort of shift that, thinking of what it was, maybe some quote, unquote, supposed to be like, and then learning to see the magic and the beauty and what it actually is because there is so much.
4 (11m 50s): Yeah. And I'm the podcast that I run also very, very honest about. It's messy too. It's really hard. There are times when I step back and think, holy, whoa, I know she chose me and I know I chose her, but this is, this is a road that is harder than most. And I am really honest about that. Now I used to kind of fluff it off and be like, yeah, we're good. We're good. And you know, sometimes we're not right. And that's okay too.
0 (12m 20s): Yeah. So your podcast for our special kids define special kids for us, what define special needs.
4 (12m 28s): Yeah. So that's, I actually chose that word very carefully. It's very controversial truthfully, whether we use the word disability or special needs or near a divergent or atypical. So there's a variety of different words to use and of our variety of different labels. Right. Cause that's really all it is. It's just a label. But the reason I call it for our special kids is because it actually a pro applies to every child. Every child is special. And so yeah, just happens to be that mine has some extra special, amazing needs that require me to spend some different time with her and different therapies and different surgeries and different oils and all sorts of things like that.
4 (13m 9s): But I, I named it because I didn't want us to be pigeonholed to just disability or just special needs. So when I determine or define special needs, it's really just truthfully, I think it's all of us. We all have special needs, right? Like you like certain things a certain way. And I do too. And so it's just how we look at the world. Like I said, it's how you define it. And special needs could be all of us. It just happens to be that Tio requires a lot of extra attention and therapies and schooling, et cetera.
0 (13m 45s): So speaking of different therapies and oils, as you mentioned, were you using essential oils before the, you had your daughter?
4 (13m 54s): Yeah, so we, I was very, we were leading a very clean life, like, so my husband came home one year and said our mission is to remove all plastic from our life cycle. Okay. We had definitely started decreasing the toxins. You know, you talk a lot about toxins in the laundry room and all of that. We had done a lot of those things and, you know, composting and all of that. We weren't actively using essential oils actually until she was born. And then again, your whole world changes all of a sudden, you're like, holy Crow, this soap, isn't good. You know, look at all the fragrance in everything. I don't want my house smelling, anything like that, you know, candles, all of it. So we definitely increase the use of essential oils.
4 (14m 37s): Then however, when we got her diagnosis, it was full on like I have to figure out ways to supplement her life in a positive way. And then we really started using more essential oils.
0 (14m 52s): Yeah. Tell me about that. What were some of the oils you started using with her and how
4 (14m 57s): So? It's very funny. I started listing out all of the oils that we use now. I'm like, oh my goodness. I use a lot of oils with her, but I also use a lot of oils with me. And I think that's a really important, maybe not distinction, but it's something really important that we as mamas and caregivers and dads do self care as much as we care for our little ones. So for her, because her she's hypertonic. So her muscles are tight, which means her digestive track oftentimes gets clogged up. And so we'll use a digestive blend. There are some for children.
4 (15m 38s): I know young living has some for children. We use one with spearmint, Japanese peppermint. It has ginger black pepper and parsley oil, teal adores it. She actually chooses it herself. She will go and grab it and tell me like, I need this now mama now she's non-verbal. So she doesn't actually say that, but she tells me she's also telepathic. So she tells me like, I need this now. That's also one thing that I started doing early on with her is I let her lead. I let her choose the oils. If I opened an oil and I let her smell it, she would immediately tell me, Nope, that's not a good one for me.
4 (16m 22s): And we'd open another one and she would smell it and she would immediately put it on. And so I really followed her. And I think that's something that all of us as parents can do more of is letting our kids be the leaders of their lives. So that's one, let me get back. So she, we also used a lot of clove diluted, very diluted clove oil on her jawline when she was teaching, she has a necklace as well, but the, just that numbing, she would choose it again. She would act
0 (16m 54s): Like an Amber necklace.
4 (16m 56s): She has, yeah, she has the Amber necklace and she still wears it. Actually. You know, that research suggests that it, it releases anti-inflammatory properties. And I can tell you what, the day I forgot to put it on her. And she woke me up at two o'clock with teeth pain. I was like, oh, where's the necklace, but so diluted clove oil at bath time, we use a lot of oil and surprisingly, I usually follow my intuition. And then I look back on, actually, it's not surprising that I use my intuition. I use my intuition all the time. It's surprising when I look back at those oils, I'm like, oh my gosh. So margarine and ylang-ylang I use those too.
4 (17m 38s): And looking back, margarine has some calming muscle, some potential calming of the muscles in her bath water, along with Epsom salts, ylang-ylang, you know, has some constituents that are definitely soothing to the nervous system and the muscles. We use a lot of geranium. I used uranium personally all the time, but with her after she has, I can x-ray or she has surgery with anesthesia, we'll use uranium because research research is suggesting that it increases the urine production, which as, you know, breath and urine are huge ways of us to get rid of our toxins.
4 (18m 23s): And so when I put a couple of drops of geranium in the bath water, after she's had x-ray or surgery, it helps her get rid of some of those toxins. And it also smells really good. I mean, the whole, my husband always walks in and he's like, oh my gosh, it smells so good in this bathroom. I'm like, yeah, it's the draining wheel. And it's a really strong oil, but when you put just one drop in the water, whole bath, like the whole bath smells and the whole
0 (18m 49s): Barrier and strong smell that,
4 (18m 51s): And you don't have to put a lot on Willie Mae, right? Yeah. We've done.
0 (18m 55s): You just drop it directly in the water. There's like, I hate to use the word controversy has like what, it's not that controversial to talk about as enjoyers and baths, but some people just kind of get up in arms about putting it directly in the water, which I do it all the time. But some people are like, you always have to mix it with absence though.
4 (19m 12s): No, you know, I, I know I don't mix it with Epsom salts. It's too much work, truthfully. I don't
0 (19m 18s): Have
4 (19m 18s): That much time. Right. I just throw in a half a cup of Epsom salts, throw in a drop and heck sometimes two or three come out. Okay. Fine. She's now she doesn't have sensitive skin. And so I think that is something to be very aware of. Right. Right. You can also just have that,
0 (19m 33s): Oh, your oils, you know, you wouldn't want to put like a super hot oil.
4 (19m 36s): Yeah. I know. Time is going in that water. No oregano is going in that water. Yeah. I actually am even hesitant to put peppermint in with her.
0 (19m 43s): Yeah. It's just
4 (19m 43s): A hot oil. Yeah. So, and you know, we don't want any of that. It's so calming and soothing and beautiful to have a lovely bath. I just would hate to add anything to deter from that. Right. We also use a lot of frankincense and bergamot and bergamot. However people say it doesn't matter either
0 (20m 3s): Tomato, tomato. Yeah,
4 (20m 4s): Exactly. I think frankincense is one of the most powerful oils that we just, I just slather on everything all the time. But bergamot, you know, we use that a lot for pain management. You actually had a nurse on a long time ago who talked about how her patients pre and post-surgery would smell bergamot. I don't know if you remember that.
0 (20m 29s): I do remember that thinking on her name right
4 (20m 31s): Now to
0 (20m 33s): Interview,
4 (20m 33s): I feel so bad, but you know, the surgical unit had said, sure, let the patients choose an oil that they like. And the patients showed. She talked about how, and there is research on this. Cause I went and looked it up after her interview. But bergamot is helping. It helps supposedly let's say, cause we want to make sure we're not saying anything inappropriate here, but the use of pain management was less when those people smelled bergamot. And so when Tio had, she just had surgery on Tuesday a week ago and we had her smell on it before and after, and guess who else was smelling it? Oh, me and my husband, Alex.
4 (21m 14s): Like we were all over that oil, partly because it's such a beautiful oil in terms of how it grounds you and uplifts you, which is so weird. Right. But gosh, it's such a powerful, beautiful oil. So I love that one as well. Okay. Those are a lot of oils.
0 (21m 28s): Yeah, no, I love it. I love it. This story was just makes me think about how kids or adults even with, with special needs or neurodivergence or whatever you want to label it. As like, to me I'm always so curious, you know, what is it like inside their bodies, inside their brains? What is their perception of the world? Like, especially I think about someone who has eyes that, you know, I see the world in a certain way. Not everyone might see the world in that way. What would an essential oil see? Like look like, smell. Like what does that do to someone's perception necessarily?
0 (22m 9s): I imagine it could sometimes for some people be like a beacon, almost like a lighthouse of, of reality and grounded-ness and safety. Do you ever, do you ever, I don't know, see teal interacting with the oils and think those kinds of thoughts?
4 (22m 25s): Oh, for sure. Especially when she opens up my crazy full oil cabinet and pulls out an oil, hands it to me and I'm like, well of course you need this oil right now. I mean, she energetically, I think she feels the energy vibration from the bottles. And truthfully we wouldn't even have to have our open-end smelling. However, the limbic system is powerful, right? So she often will just pick a specific oil. I have no idea how energetically, she must just feel it coming towards her and she brings it to me. And she's, she's not ambulatory too. So she's crawling all over with oils in her hands and it's, it's fantastic.
4 (23m 5s): But I do believe that I also know that she feels things differently. So I do highly recommend that parents dilute because she is more sensitive than me. Partly because she's a child right in general, children are, I believe, are way more connected to the universe and to the energies, but she she's sensitive. And so I'm really careful about that as well.
0 (23m 31s): Are there any other things that parents with children of special needs should really take into account? Like safety? Like you talked about maybe extra dilution. Is there anything else to take note of?
4 (23m 44s): Yeah. And I think you would obviously the sun exposure one, everyone knows that, but it's always good to say it again. Like you remember such soils and sun exposure, be careful, but I think the coolest thing about essential oils and I think you would agree here is that it can support and supplement. It doesn't have to replace. So a lot of these kids and adults are on medications and you don't have to take away the medication, but you could enhance the properties of the medication and get more out of it by using certain oils.
0 (24m 18s): Yeah. It's not like a lunch table reserved only for people, not on medications. Like you can sit with us, you can use oils and medication to
4 (24m 28s): Right. And it's, I think that's empowering. Right. And truthfully, there's almost, you can't go really wrong. I mean, unless like you talked about, unless you drink a whole entire bottle of it, there aren't a lot of things like play have fun with it. Follow your intuition. It's a big thing that I already mentioned, but I think it's so huge for parents. Additionally, more important than following your own intuition, like I said is following your child's intuition. And then like I mentioned, at the beginning, you can use it for you as much as you use it for your babies. And it's, I can put it on me if I'm nervous.
4 (25m 8s): Cause a lot of moms are really nervous about putting essential oils on their children, even if they're diluted. So put it on you and let them smell it, put it on their favorite blanket and let them smell it. It doesn't have to be topically placed on their bodies if you're not comfortable with that slowly but surely add it to the feet. If you think your child is extremely sensitive to smell, then you socks. Put it on the box, put a diluted oil on the bottom of the feet and use some socks. No problem. I just think the more people can just openly realize that there are other options that can support your journey and that you're not alone in wondering, is there something else
0 (25m 55s): That's really well said? So Jen, can we talk a little bit about, it's kind of back to school season around here. Do you have tips for kids that maybe are needing a little extra support with things like attention or focus and study? Because I imagine that a lot of the oils that you have experienced with can overlap and be useful for all sorts of different kids.
4 (26m 20s): Yeah. And you would you'd, I'm sure you're using littles with your kids right now. If they started school,
0 (26m 25s): They start tomorrow.
4 (26m 29s): Well, I'll ask you first cause I have a list, but what are you using with them to help them focus and learn better?
0 (26m 33s): Yeah. Well I always say like the morning starts the night before it starts with bedtime, you know? Cause in the summer it's so hard for them to go to bed early. Cause there's just so much happening. The sun is up high. So for the past two weeks we've been intentionally like putting peace and calming in the diffuser around like seven o'clock. And then when we get closer to bedtime, I'll pick out the lavender, I, Hey, who wants some lavender on their feet, you know? And just to help them, you know, get calm and, and they each have diffusers in their own room and they have their own oils and I don't even, I don't even try to like pick them out for them
4 (27m 12s): So they know,
0 (27m 13s): They know. And it's just more fun for them if they get to choose. So, so there's that. So that's a big, I'd say that's probably the bulk of our oil use honestly is like at nighttime because we're, we were finally like calm and slow down to take care of ourselves. But my son definitely is he's he doesn't struggle with focus as much as just attitude. Like he just doesn't really like going to school, which I'm like, Hey man, I, I get it. I don't, I don't blame. I I'm working through like my feelings around it. Cause I used to love school as a kid. I was such like a straight-laced little, a little goody, two shoes. Right. And, but I, for him, like I get it.
0 (27m 54s): I'm like he, he sees it. He's such, he's so smart. He's he just turned 10. And like he's for the past couple of years seen sort of like the bigger picture of sort of like the institution of school and been like, yeah, this isn't really working for me. And I'm like, man, I get it. You know? And if I, if I had the heart to homeschool you, I would. But I'm just not that mom. I'm so sorry. And so, you know, we're working with mostly attitude things with him. I'm trying to get him to really understand, like, you know, it's not so much about what you're learning at school. It's just the act of learning itself that is really good for your brain. And so we use more just like happy oils with him, like citrus orange and Bergamo and joy and joy.
4 (28m 40s): I'll
0 (28m 40s): Try and try to get, or some valor maybe if he's like really resisting. Yeah. Yeah. Those are of,
4 (28m 47s): It's like a magic oil. It really is. GZ Joe. Yeah. So I use this actually with a lot of my clients as well. It's not even just kids. I will diffuse peppermint orange and Rosemary. And I mean, those aren't unique oils, but we definitely know that Rosemary has been used for years and years and years. And it, I mean the Rosemary of remembrance, right. So Shakespeare talked about it and I always thought it was just literally to honor people that had passed, but I had no idea. It actually is good for memory, so it's good for learning. And so I add a little Rosemary in there, the peppermint and the orange or any type of a citrus, truthfully just brightens it up and maybe just maybe creating a little roller ball for him and just saying, Hey, before you get off that bus or before mom drops you off at school, rub a little this on and see how your day goes.
4 (29m 43s): I don't know. I'm just bossy pants, but there's also focus blend or some things that I know there's a kids line for young living as well. And I don't know, I don't know those as well, but the one that we use has a vet river, peppermint, Clementine and Rosemary.
0 (30m 2s): Yeah. That's probably similar to the genius oil.
4 (30m 6s): Oh thank you. I was like, I just did an episode on this. I'm like, they should remember these. I know, I love that. I was like, yes. Cause we have sniffle LEAs and we have a couple of different ones that we use for Tila as well. And there, the kid's line is just so great. And it's very approachable. Like you guys talked about, you don't have to worry. Right? Yeah. I love that. But one, I have a fun story. So I gave the kid's version to one of my friends that had children and unbeknownst to me gave the
0 (30m 36s): Cheap version of
4 (30m 38s): The young living. Yeah. All the kids oils, sorry, all the kids oils to a friend of mine and who has two children and unbeknownst to me, she has attention deficit and no, I had no idea about it. And she walks up to me. I don't know, a couple of weeks later she says, Hey, I've been using the one that helps you focus in the afternoons. I'm like the kids. And she's like, yeah. I was like, okay. So how's it going? She said, I don't have to use as much of my medication in the afternoons. Now I'm not saying do any of that without talking to a physician. But she was the one who just actually start.
4 (31m 18s): And she was definitely needed less of her focused medication. Shall we say when she started using the oils and it's just really powerful. There's so many little things that you guys can, that we all can do to increase our attention. I also believe in rainbow fluorite, that's a crystal and that you can put in your children's backpack. I, and it just, they won't even know it's in there, but it helps with learning and memory. It's a really powerful stone for little kids and it's pretty.
0 (31m 49s): That's cool. And you buy
4 (31m 51s): It. You just go to a crystal short, a crystal store. There's usually a crystal shop in all of the towns that you visit. You just don't know small and hidden. And, but they're so educational. I'm actually holding onto a selenite right now, which is a beautiful, clear, gorgeous stone that just helps me stay calm and feel healed and all of that. So you can use oils, you can use crystals, you can use all sorts of different things to help your kids just be in better places. But it also helps all of us to be in better places.
0 (32m 25s): I want to share a story because you had asked before we started for me to share some of the, the essential oil advice I have. Have you ever used an oil called Sara? S a R a it's a blend. I remember this story of a friend son has special needs. I don't know the exact details of, of his condition. It gets very, very emotional he's non-verbal in has a really hard time staying calm. And she started using this oil called Serra, which is a blend. It's got a lot of stuff in it, so I won't list it all, but it's, it's kind of like a surprising blend. When I, when I first heard of it, I thought it was going to be a lot of like vet over Cedar wood, frankincense,
4 (33m 10s): Like 0 (33m 10s): Really rounding brainy oils. But the first oil is on the list. Are you labeling geranium, lavender orange then there, so those
4 (33m 20s): Are all anxiety, right?
0 (33m 23s): Yeah. And then it's got a bunch of others, blue, Cypress, Cedar wood, Devonna, Jasmine, grapefruit Tangerine on and on. So it's a lot, it's a lot of things, but she made a roller ball for her son and when, and he would get really emotional, she would go and she would apply it to his left and right ears, like the outside edge ears. And she said, it would just immediately have this calming effect on him. Or he would have much less outburst or if he was having an outburst, it would just, you know, sometimes stop them completely and just help him calm down. So I thought that that was a really, really powerful story, that it was my introduction to that oil, actually that Sarah oil
4 (34m 9s): I'm adding it to my list. You don't know anyone that sells young living oils. Do you know?
0 (34m 13s): Not as kidding.
4 (34m 18s): Yeah. I'm going to add that. That's such a cool one. I want to just try it for me. I I'm, I get pretty emotional around the house as well. I, I just, because I don't have tantrums.
0 (34m 27s): I love that one too. For some reason in my mind, I was like, oh, that's going to be a really expensive one. It's like a $30 oil. It's really not that bad. 4 (34m 35s): Yeah. Very approachable.
0 (34m 36s): There's only five milliliters.
4 (34m 38s): Yeah. But if you make roller balls, know the energy, the energy of the oil is all you need. You know, it's it's that the molecules themselves are vibrating. It, you don't need anything more than a dropper two. I think we, I, I love that question when everyone's back. So how much oil? Less is more, less is more. Yeah. Very
0 (35m 0s): True.
4 (35m 1s): Very true. I'm going to try it, Sarah. Very
0 (35m 3s): Cool.
4 (35m 3s): You know another one we use S a R I. Okay. Another one we use a lot is actually Patrulla which, oh man, that's our hit or miss oil. Right. People love it or hate it, but I'll put that in her bath as well. We do a lot of bath oil for her. Just really calms her down. She's but lavender, shockingly, when she was a little child, it did not do well for her. She's six. Now she would get almost hyperactive with, with lavender.
0 (35m 29s): I would notice the same thing with my daughter when she was
4 (35m 33s): Total it. Now, now it's not so much, but when she was little, you know, some kids like really react to Benadryl. Some of them get really seedy, but then some of them get really crazy hyper that's exactly what teal did with lavender. And man, that was not fun for the first two nights until I figured that one out. But yeah. So now we use lavender for everything skin and calming and all that. But yeah, it took us some trial and error. And maybe that's a little bit of advice for ever for these new parents that are maybe getting new diagnoses, et cetera. It's like just trial and error. You know, see what works, see what feels right. Your child will tell you, your child will tell you if we can be more intuitive about our parenting.
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0 (38m 2s): Jennifer, this has been so illuminating. And man, I could talk to you forever about this, but thank you for sharing all the stories that you shared and the way that you've been using oils on your daughter. And I'm just so thankful that you're doing what you're doing with your podcast. I'd like to move on to our closing questions so we can wrap up here. So my first question is what's one or two self-care practices. You try to do every day to stay healthy.
4 (38m 34s): So I realized that I used to chase my meditation practice. And what I mean by that is this is so Zen, right? I would get to like two or three o'clock in the afternoon and I still hadn't meditated. And then I would yell at my husband. We both work from home. I'd be like,
0 (38m 54s): Obviously now
4 (38m 57s): I'm like, okay, something's got to shift. So as much as I love my sleep, I now actually get up an hour before I know I have to get teal up. And a lot of parents do this and they're making lunches and they're doing all that I don't. I actually have to sit and meditate. I light a candle. I ask for protection. I wrap my whole family everywhere around the world in protection, protective bubbles. And I meditate. And then I do some journaling and automatic writing. I highly recommend just taking that time for you, especially if you have any person that's demanding a lot of your time.
4 (39m 40s): It's a self-practice technique that has really changed my relationship with my husband, with my daughter. I'm so much more present with her. I hear her more. I connect at a heart level with her more when I take that time for me. And you can definitely tell when I don't wake up early
0 (39m 57s): And have the wait time. And you mentioned automatic writing, which I think maybe not a lot of people know what that is.
4 (40m 3s): Oh yeah. It's also kind of scary for some people. So I'll basically what happens is I open my chakras and I start journaling and I don't want to go all we were on your listeners because I know there's an edge there, but I will start writing. And then my penmanship kind of changes and I'll get messages. And I know that's can be a little scary for people, but if you put up your protection and you use good oils and you're in a great space, I get amazing messages either from my higher self or from Teal's higher self or my angels or guides. And it's a beautiful thing.
4 (40m 44s): I read some to my mom today and she was like, holy, wow, where did you come up with that? I was like, no, that wasn't me. That was my higher self. That was my spirit team working with me. And I think if we can step back sometimes and realize that we're not alone, that whether you believe in God or whether you believe in whatever you believe in that, you're not alone. You are surrounded by beautiful energy and amazing things that can take you to another level and give you support. So there you go. And now you guys are like, oh my gosh, she is crazy.
0 (41m 19s): Well, that's the beautiful thing about the internet. You know, it's like, take it or leave it. This is me. If I'm not for you, Hey, there's a skip button, you know?
4 (41m 27s): Yeah. And you know, the podcast. So I really try to balance the Wu and the science. So there's some episodes on there that are like, talk about breathing. Like our episode, we just launched yesterday or Monday. Yeah. Yesterday was about breathing and how breathing can affect your nervous system. And then we also have angel writers who write poems for you about your children. So there's all sorts of different things on there. And the whole goal is to just introduce people to new, new ways of thinking. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Sorry.
0 (41m 57s): No
4 (41m 57s): Long-winded
0 (41m 58s): Apology needed. I love it. Well, and it makes me think of just how a podcast is, can be so much more than just the content too. It can be really be it like some people listen. I mean, people have been listening to my show for like eight years. You know, I've got some listeners have been literally listening for eight years. Like they're here because they're my family, you know, they're part of this community. It's, it's a reminder of taking care of yourself. You know, I say it at the end of every show, it's a reminder that you are worth it. You know? So you, sometimes you gotta kind of take or leave. Some of the content I suppose, is what I'm saying, but still like having that safe place to show up and hit play and say, wow, these are my people that are reminding me every day that I am loved that I am worthy.
0 (42m 45s): That's what it's about.
4 (42m 47s): As a community, we've created a beautiful community and it's a trusted community. You, you are a very trusted host and everybody knows that when they listen, they're going to get value. So I hope somebody got some value out of it today.
0 (43m 2s): Sure. They did. I'm sure they did. Oh, we have one more closing question though. Finally, what's just one thing we should all ditch completely and replace with something healthier today.
4 (43m 14s): So I really do not believe in negative self-talk okay. That was a double negative stay positive. So if we can ditch the negative self-talk and then replace it just with awareness. So here's the example. When I started noticing how much I would kind of being mean to myself verbally, like in my head, then I would catch myself and I'd berate myself for catching myself. Gosh, darn it. Why aren't you being more positive? Okay. That, that is not cool. So just increase the kindness, the kind awareness that you can give yourself, just be kind to yourself more.
4 (43m 57s): You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You might not have the same intelligence as someone else, but you are intelligent. You are a gorgeous human being that has taking up space in this world for a reason. And it's our job to just let our light shine. And if we are self-talking ourselves down to the ground, we won't let our light shine so important to everyone has those lights. And it's just figuring out how to, how to shine at the brightest. Mm.
0 (44m 26s): I love that. And I've heard, so I've heard a similar answer from one of our guests recently, too. Oh, sorry. No, no, no apology needed, but it makes, it makes me think that I, I had the same thought last time I heard a similar response and that thought is like, how exactly? Because I can catch myself in hindsight. Right. I can, I can think back to like, oh yeah. Earlier today I really kind of was like, yeah. So bad. Self-talking negative. Self-talking myself. But is there, do you have any tricks or tips for just really like catching yourself in the moment or preventing it to begin with?
4 (45m 1s): So the first thing to get you to prevention is actually that awareness. And so it's, you know, when you are driving down the road and all of a sudden you get somewhere and you're like, oh man, how did I get here? Well, you were probably self-talking yourself the whole time, but you just weren't aware of it. And it's the chatter. That's always going. It's the chatter that's going as you're listening to me right now, there's chatter in your head. That's going it's am I asking the right question? That I am I answering it the right way? I have self chatter while I'm talking right now to you. I'm talking to myself.
4 (45m 42s): Okay. Right. So it's just start increasing your awareness of that little self-talk so it doesn't have to be, oh, I have to hold myself accountable to every word. It's just even start realizing that it's there. Then you can gently start correcting yourself. And what I mean by that is gentle correctness. So you catch yourself saying that was such a stupid question. I can't believe I asked that question on some Matha. Okay. Is that does not help you at all. Right? None of those words help you. It's okay to say, Hey, maybe that wasn't the best question.
4 (46m 22s): Okay. Fix it. Change it around. Feel differently. Ask a different question. If you feel one thought, okay. Don't like that thought feel about her thought. Feel a little better thought you don't have to go from poop to roses. Right. You don't have to go from horrible negative. Self-talk to I'm a champion. I'm amazing. No, that's not realistic, but take these little baby steps. So if you catch yourself saying, you know, that was, that was silly. Gosh. It's like, okay, well that was also maybe a little fun. Okay. So maybe I created a little uncomfortable, but look at the great conversation that we had as a result of that.
4 (47m 2s): So you can start highlighting what came of it in a different way. Does that, does that make sense?
0 (47m 7s): Yes, that makes sense. And okay. My new favorite quote is not, you don't have to go from poop to roses. I love it.
4 (47m 16s): And mind you, I've never said that before. I was trying to think of a different word. As I was talking, I was like, what's another word for poop. I mean, there's plenty of other words, but I was like, huh, pooped her roses. But you don't have to go from boom to
0 (47m 28s): Runs. It's a good reminder. It's a good reminder. I'm gonna write that on my mirror. I think
4 (47m 34s): It's the right red lipstick
0 (47m 35s): Agendas. It's been so much fun. And of course, people who are interested in learning more about you can listen to your podcast for our special kids, but is there another place you want to send people to connect or be more a part of your world?
4 (47m 49s): I would. I love hearing from people. So you can email me at gen ed or special kids. All of our handles are for our special kids. And I do have a newsletter that you can sign up for where you get all the episodes, but you also, and it's only monthly. I don't, I don't send out lots of them, but I also have free meditations. We're starting to do a zoom parent group just so people can connect and feel like they're a part of community and they're not alone. We're not alone.
0 (48m 22s): Well sad. Well, thank you so much, Jen, for coming here, sharing your wisdom with us here on the essential oil revolution. We so appreciate you.
4 (48m 31s): Thank you.
0 (48m 33s): The essential oil revolution is created by me, Samantha Lee. Right? Thanks so much for tuning in with us here today. We'll catch you again here next week with a brand new episode on the essential oil revolution, you can find show notes, resources, shop around with our swag shop or join our essential oil family at revolution oils, podcast.com. I'll see you back here soon in the meantime, keep on learning. Keep on discovering. And most importantly, keep on treating yourself well because you are worth it.