332: The Case for Making Someone Else's Day w/ Howard H. Prager
There are about a thousand different ways to make YOURSELF feel better. But, have you ever considered what happens to your own mood when you make SOMEONE ELSE feel better? Today on our show, author Howard H. Prager makes a case for Making Someone Else's Day. We'll also share what makes the essential oil community so prone to happiness and easy oil tricks for uplifting your (and other people's) mood.
Howard H Prager is the President of Advance Learning Group and an author, speaker, executive coach and leadership consultant with a keen understanding of what leaders at work and at home need to further their growth and reach out to inspire and lift others up. Howard is the author of the popular book, “Make Someone’s Day: Becoming a Memorable Leader for Work and Life.”
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1 (38s): Revolution. Hello, welcome to the show. I'm your host, Samantha Lee Wright. I hope you're having a fabulous day. If you need any help, having an even more fabulous day, you have to try out my new favorite obsession. My happy morning, diffuser blend. I talk about it in this episode, but if you want it now, it's really simple. It's just two drops. Rosemary essential oil, three drops, peppermint oil, and four drops lemon essential oil. Just throw that in your diffuser or make a roller ball out of it. And boom, it's kind of impossible not to have a good day when you start out with that mixture in the air today on our show, we welcome in Howard H Prager, who recently wrote a book called make someone's day becoming a memorable leader for work and life.
1 (1m 23s): Today, we're gonna dive into his book and talk about all the ways in which making someone else's day can make you a happier person. We'll talk about essential oils and more that's today on our show. But first allow me to pull a recipe out of our DIY dugout. Today's recipe comes from Rachel McCormick who created the game day blend called the Terron. And I hope I'm pronouncing that right to make the Terron blend combine two drops, Northern lights, black spruce, two drops Tron, and one drop basil. You can throw that in a diffuser or make a roller ball, easy peasy. And I love this blend to just very, very kind of like manly and masculine, but also just kind of soothing and grounding at the same time.
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1 (4m 37s): Howard is the author of the popular book make someone's day becoming a memorable leader for work and life. And he's here today on our show to talk to us about the gift of giving and essential oils and making someone's day. Welcome to this show, Howard, how are you?
3 (4m 55s): Well, Samantha, I'm delighted to be here. Thank you so much. I'm great.
1 (4m 60s): Well, I'm so excited about this book. It just sounds like one of those things that the world needs more of, right? Just positive words and, and practical advice on really how to live one's life in a, in a happier, more meaningful way. So tell us just a little bit more about how this book came to be
3 (5m 18s): Sure. I, I will be happy to do that. Let me start with the story of where it really just dawned on me. You know, how we have these times. Sometimes it takes longer for others for light bulbs to go off, even though it has seemed obvious our whole lives. This was one of those things. It was obvious my whole life, but the light bulb just went out several or went out, went on several years ago, I was waiting at the train station to go downtown early one morning on a commuter rail. And a young woman comes up to me with a clipboard and said, would you mind signing this petition? I said, no, not at all.
3 (6m 0s): I asked what's it for? And she said, we're trying to get someone on the ballot for election and we need to get X number of signatures. I said, great, I'm happy to sign. And as I was doing that, I asked her who it was and I said, oh great. I know that person. And I was the first person to sign, I believe and gave the clipboard back to her. 1 (6m 19s): She, oh, how long had she been there that day?
3 (6m 21s): I don't know. I don't, I'm I'm thinking this was like the first or second train. It was six 30 in the morning. So if she came to the first train, she'd been there maybe a half hour, but I was the first signature and I thought that's kind of interesting. And she looked at me with the biggest device and said, oh my gosh, you made my day. I signed a petition. That's all I did. I didn't go outta my way or anything else. I just signed a petition,
1 (6m 50s): Right. Something that felt very kind of small. And you know, not that much effort on your end, but it kind of, you could tell it felt like such a big moment for her.
3 (6m 60s): Exactly. And that's where the idea really spawned. And I said, oh my gosh, we all do some of these things every day. These just happenstance things that we happen to do. But if we do it at the right time, in the right way, it can truly make someone stay. And the fact that I was the first and don't know, as you said, how long had she been there? How many people should she ask? How many people turned her down? The fact that I did it, maybe that's all it took was for her to get the confidence that people will sign this petition. So, so it made me think that much like, you know, essential oils helped make us feel, feel better, whatever, whatever our need or, or mood or things are that we wanted them to help us with make someone's day does the same thing.
3 (7m 51s): And it does it by uplifting others. And there's research that was just done in INSEAD European business school by nada Klein and Kelly, not that they found that making others happier makes us feel better. A matter of fact, we feel this sounds weird, more, better, much better when we make someone others, someone else's day. Then when we make our own day, does that make sense to you?
1 (8m 23s): It totally makes sense. I think just from my own personal experience, I think about those times where, you know, maybe I have like an unexpected day off. Right. And, and you kind of have all that, that the zeitgeist is all about sort of treat yourself and, you know, self-care and what that looks like, you know, go to the spa or go get your haircut. Anyway, you know, I'll have this time where I'm like, oh man, I've got the day off. Maybe I should go, you know, treat myself to go shopping or get my nails done. And you know, not that that's not lovely and nice and, and everyone deserves that that time, but I always kind of feel just slightly hollow at the end of the day when I have those kinds of moments compared to if I had, you know, reached out to a friend and say, Hey girl, like I'm taking you shopping with me today.
1 (9m 13s): Right. Or, you know, reach out or, or spend that time doing charity work or, or something like that. I do feel so much more just fulfilled and happy for when I compare those experiences.
3 (9m 28s): And that's, and there's science now backing that feeling up and explaining why we have that feeling, feeling so much better when we uplift others.
1 (9m 38s): Yeah. Tell me about that, that neuroscience a little too, cuz you mentioned how essential oils can be uplifting and lift us up. And we know, we know so much about the neuroscience of essential oils that specifically citrus oils are really have a great reputation for what happens when those molecules go in through our nose, up to our brains, they go, those molecules are able to pass that blood brain barrier and go directly to the limbic system, which controls feelings of all of our feelings, anxiety, depression, happiness, memory, those kinds of things. Do we know do does helping or making someone else's day, I'm saying the word helping, but I, I know there's more to it than that.
1 (10m 22s): What you call making someone's day or do we know how much, which areas of the brain that really lights up when we do that?
3 (10m 30s): Yes, we do that. That's a great question. And you're right. Those citrus and especially those lemony oils do so much for that. So when you make someone's day, they get a neurological cocktail that extends far beyond just an endorphin rush endorphins. You know, they play an overall role in our wellbeing by wording off pain and perpetuating pleasure, but they alone don't create that rush or burst of happiness. It's the cocktail of serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine mixed with the endorphins. That really is the cocktail that truly makes us happy and makes our brain feel good.
1 (11m 12s): Yeah. Well I'm a huge fan of oxytocin. I used to work in the childbirth world. I taught childbirth ed and I was a doula and I even have an, an oxytocin molecule tattooed on my arm. So a lot of people, they might see my pictures and they go, what's that, what's that molecule. I say, it's oxytocin the best hormone of all time. Wow. So I'm a big fan, but I didn't, I didn't realize that the, just the act of, of making someone else happy releases all of those hormones together, that cocktail. So, I mean, that's a cocktail that that's straight outta childbirth, really serotonin dopamine, oxytocin, those feelings of, you know, holding a newborn or, or things like that is it's really what makes us human.
1 (11m 57s): And some could argue is what makes life worth living those three, those three hormones cocktail together,
3 (12m 4s): You know, that's so funny and so true. So that's what happens when you've done something for someone where they say you've made my day, those that neurological cocktail goes off, but what about you? How do you get that same effect? Your mirror neurons light up. When someone has said you made my day, you reflect what they experience and then you get that same feeling inside of you and that same rush. And it's those mirror neurons. That, for example, when you visit someone who might be ill or in the hospital to try to cheer them up and they walk out and you walk, they feel better and you walk out feeling better.
3 (12m 47s): That's those mirror neurons lighting up from one another. That is doing
1 (12m 52s): That. Yeah. So help me understand what exactly you mean when you say making someone's day is that, does that have to be an altruistic act? Does it have to be something noble, something small, something big? I mean, what falls into that phrase?
3 (13m 10s): The answer is yes. All of the above. So you shared, you know, with the example I shared of signing a petition, that seems so small. I'll tell you something smaller that can make someone's day. And that's a smile. Sometimes a smile is all they need to make someone's day. And when you smile, you get so many additional benefits as well. You know, a smile is on exercise for your, for your lips, for your mouth. So who knew that smiling could have so many benefits for you for doing it? It's the easiest of actions to take. And the fact I have a chapter about just smiling.
3 (13m 50s): Isn't that funny and smile. Yeah. And smiling is the universal language. You know, wherever you travel, whether you speak a language or not, a smile is the universal sign of friendliness and helping people feel more relaxed and more comfortable. So that's the simplest. One of the simplest things we can do to make someone stay. And by the way, it can be done online as well as walls in person. I find that so remarkable.
1 (14m 18s): Are you talking about like emojis that, that form, or are you talking about something else?
3 (14m 23s): Yeah, no. I'm talking about communication. How you could read something online and make a comment. And I have done that where people said you made my day.
1 (14m 36s): No.
3 (14m 37s): So I'll give you a quick example of this because it's, it's truly, it's something we all do, right? We're on social media or emails or whatever. And, and the fact that you can make someone's day that way. So a friend of mine is a keynote speaker and Sardi had posted a quote for the week on his, on his, no, his Facebook or LinkedIn, one of the social media pages. And he had a co-author and mentor respond to that and make a comment about it. And I thought, I'd take the opportunity to thank her for being such a great mentor and partner and role model for him because I hadn't had chance to really meet her or talk to her.
3 (15m 21s): And she came back with those four magic words. Oh my gosh, you made my day.
1 (15m 27s): That's so powerful. It is. Well, I love just back accept this, the concept of smiling making someone's day. It really is the easiest form. And every everyone right now is, is thinking, oh yeah, I know that person, that person that is just always smiling, right? I'm curious are some people just born naturally more smiley than others?
3 (15m 50s): That's a great question. I think some people are just generally happier than others. You know, our tendency, our brain, it's easier. It's wired more to go negative to be skeptical and cautious. I think it probably goes back to early ancestors, you know, primitive man who was, you know, worried about safety all the time. And so that's the way our brain goes. So we have to work a little bit to turn those neurons around and, and be more positive, be more happy, be more affirmative. And so by doing that, we become that way and we share, and we exude that with others.
1 (16m 34s): Well, this makes me think about one of the things I love so much about being a part of the essential oil community. The essential oil world is that they, the people in that community just tend to honestly be some of the happiest people that I've ever met and not, not just happy, but also just so generous. Right? So giving with their time, with their knowledge or with, or with physical things, you know, I have one friend, her name's Holly, and she's constantly packing up these little care packages for people. She'll take, you know, she hears whiff of anyone that's sick. She doesn't even have to know them personally.
1 (17m 13s): You know, she gets whiff of some being sick and she's immediately putting together a little box of, of care things, you know, vitamin C essential oils, thieves, whatever she's got around, she makes herbal tin cheers. And she'll just package 'em up and, and mail 'em to someone. And, you know, if, if anyone needs help, she's very quick to, you know, bring a meal to them, a jar soup or whatever. And she's just genuinely one of the best people. I know the happiest people I know, and she, her whole life, if I could sum it up in one word would be giver. You know, she's just such a giver. And I don't, I don't know if I've ever seen her frown, you know, maybe that's an exaggeration, but she's just one of those people that's always smiling.
1 (17m 58s): And I've always really looked up to her in that way. But I find that very common in the essential oil world where we, we tend to be sharers, right. We love to share these oils with others because not only do they make us happy, you know, they uplift our moves. They make us feel better. They solve problems for us, but they it's just so easy to share that with other people. I remember one time being in a really crowded Panera bread ones and just sitting there doing my work and then, you know, have my laptop. I have my oils on my, on the table. And I had Frank incen on my wrist that day. And it was just a very hectic day. And I could tell there was this one waitress kind of running around and, and, you know, clearing the tables and, and cleaning and sweeping.
1 (18m 44s): And she just looked just like a ball of stress, you know, walking around. And she, she comes up to my table. I can't remember why. And as soon as she walks over, she kind of gets a whiff of the, the Franken senses and goes, whoa, what's that, that, that smells nice. I was like, yeah, that's just Franken senses. You want, you want some? She was like, sure. And so I was like, yeah, just gimme your wrist. And I just put a drop of Franken senses on her wrist and told her, Hey, just, you know, rub that together and give it a smell. And she just sort of quickly went away. You know, she was really busy. And then about, you know, five minutes later, she turns right back around and she comes back to my table and she, and she goes, I just want you to know that that just made my day, you know, that just instantly calmed me down, helped me get out of this ball of stress I was in.
1 (19m 27s): So thank you. And to me, it was so simple. I didn't think anything of it, you know, as I hear have a drop so easy. Right. But for her, it really was this, this really powerful thing that this stranger would just share that with her. And, and I still, I tell this story to this day, like that's how impactful it was for me, because it did feel good. Right. It just felt good at the end of the day and made that just a really good day in the life of Samantha Lee. Right, right.
3 (20m 0s): Yes. Yes. That's a great story. And you are so correct. I know people in the essential oils community, too, my sister-in-law Elizabeth is a big essential oils user and she'll constantly, if we've got a problem or something we're facing, she will send us the mixture of essential oils that we need to just make it through. And it's just so generous. Your friends sounds like she just lives every day by making someone's day. And that's just so beautiful. And we can have more people like that in the world. Watch problems disappear.
1 (20m 35s): Howard. I'm curious. What was the most surprising thing you came across when you were researching for this book?
3 (20m 42s): Truly. I think the fact how easy it is to do how easy it is that we, we can all make someone stay and we just need to, you know, it just takes a little effort to think about it, that it's doing something at the right way in the right time and people do it without thinking. And that's the remarkable thing. You don't have to think about it. I've created a model, I guess it's my oils, right? My secret oils for making someone stay, I call it the VIP model because who doesn't wanna feel like a V I P so I created that for those of us who maybe struggling or have days where I don't know how to make someone's day, or I can't find an easy example, but there's so many things that are just spontaneous in life.
3 (21m 31s): When you're traveling. These things happen all the time. My friend Morag just told me a story that she was traveling to Newark airport and there was a woman on her flight. And there were actually on the next flight together, I believe from Newark to Nashville. And, but she spoke only German and more, I recalled her high school. German was able to communicate enough to this woman, that she was able to find her way to the next flight and feel much more comfortable of what she was doing and where she was going. And it absolutely made her day and that that's all it took, but it took more ag to notice, observe, see what was going on, see how she was struggling and try to figure out what can she do to help alleviate her fears.
1 (22m 24s): Yeah, that reminds me of, of an app that I joined a couple years ago. I can't, I now I'm blanking on the name. I think it was called be my eyes perhaps. And it was this app designed to be able to help people who were blind. So someone, you know, a blind person could just like put an alert out on this app and anyone who's, you know, signed up to volunteer will get an alert to say, you know, Hey, there's someone in need and you would, you know, open up the app, go on, you know, FaceTime and then just help them with whatever they were doing. So I did it, I did it one time. There was a woman that just really needed to know the, the length of a button, you know, for some reason she was measuring a button and she couldn't read the tape measure.
1 (23m 9s): So I read it for her through the camera and it was such a, it was just such a great feeling to say, wow, what a simple little task, right. That I take for granted every day. And like, I was just able to help someone. But what I found most fascinating about the app was that it was so wildly popular that they had to stop letting volunteers sign up for it because they just had way too many volunteers. And so they, they were just constantly flooded with people signing on it was like crashing their servers to have that many people volunteering. And, and it just struck me at just how much people are really craving those opportunities, those simple opportunities to just help someone in need.
1 (23m 55s): But especially now that we've all become kind of so isolated, right? So many of us work at home or we're kind of in these cubicle environments all day where we're not really exposed to like normal everyday life all the time. Sometimes it can be difficult to, to recognize where we can help people. And, you know, some people get intimidated by maybe, you know, volunteering somewhere or spending. They don't have that much time or for one reason or another. It's those simple acts that I feel like sometimes when you, when you can open your eyes, you start to recognize those things a little bit more. Do you have any tips Howard for, you mentioned you had a model, but you know, any tips for people who really kind of struggle with being able to kind of wake up and put that smile on their face or, or reach out and recognize when those opportunities come across their, their day.
3 (24m 48s): Absolutely. And I love you sharing this app. I was not aware of that. So I'll have to just check it out. I do think that there are other apps out there that if people are interested and I'll share the model in just a second, let me show you how it ties in. So a friend of mine has, has used the app by nothing, B U Y nothing. And it's an opportunity to donate things that you have no matter what condition and I, we gonna stress that no matter what condition donate, things that others may find, you know, how someone finds a treasure in another person's junk.
3 (25m 28s): So Maureen had this old easel that she wasn't wasn't using. It was kinda dirty and, and, and such. And so she tried to fix it up a little bit, but she put it out on, on the app by nothing. And someone came and said, oh my gosh, I am getting, I need this for my daughter. My daughter, who's older daughter, an older woman. It's an older daughter has been painting on her kitchen table because she has nowhere to paint. This easel absolutely changed her life. And it costs nothing. And it cost Marine nothing.
3 (26m 8s): She got it out of her house. Got it to someone who could use it. And this person said, daughter said, this is the best present I've ever received. It's an old, dirty easel, not something brand new out of a box, but it's just something that was exactly what she needed. So that's a whole idea doing something in the right way at the right time for what people need. And to do that, the model I created is called V I P view and observe what's going on either in person or online, what might people need, what's going, going on? What are you noticing? And then after you've noticed, identify and consider what you might do.
3 (26m 51s): So consider the options. We always have lots of options of what we could do. Even with that easel, Maureen could have donated it. She could have thrown it out. She could have, I don't know, it's probably other things she could've done with it, but those are two that just come to the top of my mind. So identify and consider, and then the P is to plan and act. So plan on what you need to do is it's simple, such as just calling or posting it online for, for Maureen, or is it something more complicated that we wanna do either way we need to do some planning and then we need to act and do it. And that's as simple as it can be. V I P view and observe, identify and consider plan and act.
1 (27m 36s): Yeah. Well, I love how simple this all is. It really brings us back to the root of what it is to be human. You know, I'm sure the anthropologist listening is going, yes, there's like so much science behind why humans are this way, right? We're this interconnected, very social animal that needs that level of interconnection and, and how we get that is through service. A lot of times through giving through smiling. I love all of this. I wanted to take some time to share a little bit of my essential oil tips around this topic, cuz there's, there's quite a, a lot that is making me think about just personally when I'm kind of in a bad mood, right?
1 (28m 16s): And I need to uplift my spirits because it's so true. If you're in a bad mood, then you go, you kind of infect those around you with a bad mood. So there's so many essential oils that we can use just personally to help us my favorite. There's a blend called peace and calming. So if you have peace and calming around, you know, having that, just rolling that on your wrist or putting a few drops in your diffuser. I mean, it's just an instant, the whole household. Like if my kids are fighting with each other, I'll just put peace and calming in the diffuser. And it's really this instant wave of calm that tends to watch over everyone. If you don't have that blend, you can sort of attempt to blend it yourself. It's mostly blue. Tanzy Petly orange Tangerine.
1 (28m 59s): So two of those citrus soils in there and then Ealing, so a really fabulous blend of oils. I talk all the time about just the combination of orange and vanilla together being such an uplifting mood, any of the citrus soils, Bergo grapefruit lemon lime. I mean, just think about everyone has that experience of cracking open and orange, right. And smelling that citrus. And it just brings a smile to your face. It really does. And then my, the last blend I'll share is my happy morning diffuser blend. This is sort of a combination of, of prepping you up and waking you up and uplifting your mood. First thing in the morning, and that's two drops, Rosemary, three drops, peppermint, and four drops, lemon essential oil just right there in the diffuser first thing in the morning.
1 (29m 46s): And it's such a beautiful way to start your day. So those are just personal things you can do to kind of check yourself, right, check yourself before you go wreck. Other people is what I like to say is you don't wanna go and infect the world with a bad mood, not to say you can never be in a bad mood, but there, you know, these are such easy things we can do to help ourselves get outta that. And then I wanted to recommend too, for those that are really interested in this idea of essential oils as, as gift giving, which is such a small, simple act that you can do to make someone's day, we've done two episodes solely about kind of DIY essential oil gift making and that's episode 98 and episode
1 45. 1 (30m 29s): So we'll, we'll try to link those in the show notes for people that want kind of more in depth, like how do I make easy, simple gifts to give to people? And I think I wanna point out too, that, you know, gift giving is not the same as marketing, right? So a lot of people that are in the essential oil business might say, oh yeah, I give samples out all the time. Or I, I give this and I give that because I want them to be my customer. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but it's not the same as I think what you and I are talking about today, which is that giving without the expectation of receiving in return.
3 (31m 7s): Indeed. That's so true. That's what makes someone's, that's what makes, makes someone's stay remarkable because you're just giving for the goodness of giving the fact that you feel good afterwards as well is just a bonus.
1 (31m 20s): Well, Howard, this has been great before we move on to our, our closing questions. Is there anything else you wanna share about your book or about making someone's day?
3 (31m 31s): You know, I think that, you know, I love the facts that you opened up with the fact that people in the essential oils community are such a giving group of people. And that's what makes someone's day is all about trying to get more of us to be those types of giving people. Because we know that we, we share something, whether it's simple or more complicated with others, we can uplift others to such a great extent that they needed. And that's what makes it so beautiful. I've gotten, so, I mean, let me tell you of extreme. So we've talked about smiling being so easy.
3 (32m 13s): I've got examples and I have multiple stories of people who've donated their kidney to help others
1 (32m 21s): Live. My aunt donated her kidney to no way someone. Yeah, yeah. Not, not a blood relative, just, just a father who she knew, cuz she would come to her, her horse farm, they had their horses there and you know, he was a father, he had a young child and you know, he was gonna die and needed a kidney and she gave him her kidney. You know, she was, she's such a giving. She worked in the education space for a long time. She's always kind of volunteering her time with, in the political world as well. You know, she's just kind of one of those, those givers and, and she's also a very happy person, you know, it just comes hand in hand. It seems
3 (33m 1s): It does well. That's great. What, you know, I just mentioned that randomly I could have given you 12 other examples and yet you've got a relative who's who has done this. That's that's tremendous. And that's what I mean is it takes people doesn't it can take a lot of effort. You know, certainly the lot of planning would go into something like that, but it could be something simple too. And all I say is start simply and here's the simplest way to start. Everyone can do this. Think of someone who has made your life, whether it's recently or whether it's in the past a parent, a teacher, a relative, a coach, a friend, a confidant who, whoever it might be, who did something to help make your life ahead and be sure to thank them.
3 (33m 54s): You know, it doesn't take much would be a, a note, an email, a phone call, take him to coffee, to lunch. There's no statute of limitations. So if you've got that teacher from way back in fifth grade, that helps set you on the course that has led you to where you are. If they're still around, find them and thank them, they will so appreciate it. And so will you. So that's what I encourage is if everyone would go out and find a simple way to thank someone will help make their lives. You're gonna feel better and they're gonna feel tremendous.
1 (34m 33s): Mm. I love that. You said there's no statute of limitations there either. It reminds me of the, we always open our show out with a quote and, and today we're picking a quote from Anne Frank who said no one has ever become poor by giving. And it's so true.
3 (34m 49s): That's very true. Absolutely.
1 (34m 54s): Well, Howard, this has been just so joyous. It's putting a smile to my face, to just think about internalizing this and going out and really putting it into action. So thank you for spending your time with us here today. And congratulations on, on the new book before you go. We always love to ask a couple questions and the first is what's one or two self care practices that you try to do every day to stay healthy.
3 (35m 18s): Oh, that's great. So I try to do some type of workout or exercise every day because I find that when we are more physically active and physically fit, we're also more happier and healthier. And this was so true. Even during the pandemic, I find ways to either create my own workouts or find workouts online that I could do. And I find that that's just a great, great practice. And I love one of those essential oils. I love lemon and mint. And so I always try to start my day with some mint or lemon water or even combined.
3 (35m 59s): And that just to me, that's so refreshing and nourishing and I'll bet it's the same thing that happens when you use those in the diffuser and makes just the whole air feel so much fresher and lighter and uplifting.
1 (36m 14s): Oh, absolutely. Well finally, Howard, what's just one thing we should all ditch completely and replace with something healthier today.
3 (36m 24s): Stop the negative, stop the negative neurons from firing and, and just be more positive. It's so easy to see, you know, there's so many challenges in life that we face. We spent the day talking about that and talking about all the challenges, but we're making it through those challenges. If you're here and you're listening to this, you are a winner. You are a survivor, you are a successful. So be sure to take that and tell your brain that tell your brain, don't go negative, go positive, be positive, be kind, be caring and make someone's day.
3 (37m 4s): And you do that. You're gonna just feel so much better as a result.
1 (37m 9s): Yes. I love it. You're a survivor. I love that. Well, Howard, for people that wanna reach out and get in touch with you, and obviously, hopefully people will read your book as well. What's the best way for them to find you
3 (37m 23s): So they can find me the best ways are any, either my website or any of the social media pages. I go by Howard H Preger. My dad always used the middle initial and attribute to him. I use mine as well. So Howard H Prager that's P R a G E R is the last name.com. And if you can go there, you can even get a chapter of the book for free, or you just sign up for my newsletter, which just is a once a month story of, of examples and podcast I've been on. So this podcast is going to be the first piece listed in the August, my August newsletter.
3 (38m 6s): So, yeah. So please just sign up for that. You'll find some other tools or resources for free on that website, because this shouldn't be something that we have locked and key, but certainly if you like to buy the book, I I'd love you to do that. That's available anywhere online, any online bookstore.
1 (38m 28s): Fabulous. Well, thank you so much, Howard, for spending your day with us here on the essential oil revolution and sharing your wisdom, we appreciate you.
3 (38m 36s): It's such a pleasure and I appreciate you. And all you're doing with this podcast and the essential oils community, may everyone go and make someone stay and have a great day yourself?
1 (38m 49s): The essential oil revolution is created by me, Samantha Lee Wright. Truly thank you for tuning in. I love that you're here. I love that I can talk to you and hopefully make your day just a little bit better. It does make my day to make your day. Hopefully we'll see you next week in the meantime, keep on learning. Keep on discovering. And most importantly, keep on treating yourself. Well, you are worth it.